I was in the park with my family last weekend. In the middle of the park stands this beautiful, big tree. Its large, sturdy branches grow close to the ground and you usually see the tree full of climbing children, finding their way up and down the trunk, focused and fulfilled by the wonderful task of tree-climbing.
“How would one respectfully limit screen time? I did not use to give my now 25 month old screen time, but now that I’m pregnant with number 2, for my sanity, I’ve been indulging her. However, I do want to limit her and always set a time frame or a number of videos she can watch.
“Babies have a right to cry, and feel what they feel, with the knowledge that a kindly adult is there to help if possible. Accept the feelings of your baby, positive as well as negative.” – Magda Gerber
Saying “It’s OK!” to our crying child is usually meant so well. We’re offering comfort and trying to soothe our children: “Mama is here, I got you. It’s ok, no need to cry.”
Honestly, this phrase is so automatic, and for most of us we don’t even think twice when we say it. But after studying and reading about respectful parenting for all these years, my perspective has changed.
It’s taken practice, but I now actively avoid saying this phrase to my children.
I just wanted to send you a little note and thank you for introducing me to RIE, Magda Gerber and Janet Lansbury, amongst others. I have now been studying this method for about two months; following you on Instagram and YouTube, reading articles and listening to podcasts – and I’m telling you: this has completely changed our family’s lives!
RIE stands for “Resources For Infant Educarers” and is often known as Respectful Parenting. RIE was brought to the U.S. by infant-development expert Magda Gerber in 1978. Magda Gerber, born in Hungary, had previously worked closely with paediatrician dr. Emmi Pikler and from that experience she framed the RIE approach that refers to giving babies more independence, allowing their natural abilities to flourish with minimal intervention and respect.
I was in a beautiful toy store with my 3.5 year old daughter last weekend. After spending some time browsing around the store, looking at different toys and objects, she found two beautiful swans that lit up, sort of like a cozy night-light, One was pink, the other, white, and she was obviously captivated by them. She played with them the whole time we were in the store – so focused and peaceful. It was lovely.
As Peaceful Parents we don’t punish, lecture, manipulate or teach children “a lesson” in the traditional way when it comes to setting limits. At the same time, we who practice Respectful or Peaceful Parenting know how important it is to our children’s well-being and happiness to set clear boundaries and limits. To feel securely rooted, children need limits.
Why should we welcome our children’s tantrums and see crying as a healthy part of all of our existences? Well, I’m going to give you 10 reasons why…
Parenting can be so confusing! When I started following the RIE approach I began seeing better and better how many of the things we do with our children on a daily basis, most often when we really mean well and don’t see anything wrong with what we’re doing, is possibly not affecting our children the same way that we’re hoping.
At the “Introduction to Respectful Parenting course” we cover all basic aspects of Respectful / Mindful Parenting and give you an overview of respectful parenting principles and basic techniques.View Course
Every parent on this planet should follow your work! Thank you!
Evu Rún Guðmundsdóttir
I’m so thankful for gotten to know this style of parenting, above all I feel so much more secure and confident as a mother, what a gift!
Thank you so much for an amazing class. I honestly cried from happiness on the way home I was so happy to have been there listening to your message and that my husband was there with me. Thank you for your work!
Thank you for an amazing evening course last week, it was wonderful to listen to you. Me and my husband related so strongly to everything you talked about and afterwards felt so inspired and ready to be the parents we want to be. I could swear to you things have been 100% better since
THANKS dear Kristín! You can’t imagine the effect that you’ve had on the parenting role here at our house. I’ve become a much better mother after having listened to and adopting your good advice. I often think about how lucky your children are to have you as a mother. Thank you!
I just wanted to thank you for introducing me to this parenting approach. I’ve started adopting a lot of RIE in my parenting and I can't believe how well this works for me and my daughter and how obvious it that she’s feeling much better now. I even got the best compliment in the world from her yesterday when she told me out of the blue “Mom, you completely stopped using your ugly voice, it’s much better. :