“Sometimes I Cry, Sometimes I Laugh” A Children’s Book About Emotions

“Sometimes I Cry, Sometimes I Laugh” A Children’s Book About Emotions

For quite some time, I’ve had a desire to write a children’s book about emotions. But I didn’t just want the book to talk about emotions; I wanted it to acknowledge and respect emotions. I wanted to write a book that I would feel good about reading to my own children, one that conveys a healthy view of emotions. And while my book is certainly a children’s book, I’ve also written it with their parents and other adults in their lives in mind. In fact, because of how it models respectful communication and gives parent’s language for empathic limit-setting, “Sometimes I Cry / Sometimes I Laugh” could even be viewed as a parent handbook of sorts.

The book is double sided, starting from either side, the book tells two stories that begin separately and meet in the middle. It’s meant to be symbolic, as the book explores opposite ends of the emotional spectrum and takes a holistic approach to examining these contrasting feelings and the ways we express them. 

About the book:

The book talks openly about both crying and laughing, without judging one to be better or more correct than the other. The central message being that all emotions, both positive and negative, are valid, and that children should always be given space to express their feelings and be met with empathy and understanding when they do. It’s a message that I am incredibly passionate about, and I believe this is the single most important shift that we as parents can make in our thinking; if we can truly internalize the idea that all emotions are valid and deserve to be expressed, we will be much better equipped to support our children in developing healthy emotional balance and emotional intelligence.


I believe it does a person a great disservice in life to be afraid of a normal part of their existence, to be ashamed or constantly try and avoid feeling bad/sad/angry/frustrated/disappointed. The sad reality is that most of us actually are, scared or afraid of our negative emotions. Whether we are aware of that or not. Most of us grew up repeatedly receiving the message that these emotions were “bad” and not to be expressed or even felt. We were scolded, punished or shamed for crying or expressing our upsets as children. But how are we supposed to handle life if we can’t handle a perfectly normal part of it?

As a parent educator I work a lot with parents. And because of a deeper level of understanding on emotional development people are waking up to a newfound awareness on how to best relate to and support children as well as each other. Generally parents understand the concept of accepting emotions and the importance of allowing emotional expression, we get that it’s bad to stuff our feelings. 

But then in real life, when things get hectic, our child has a crying fit or we need to set boundaries, parents tend to go a bit blank. Like we know what we “should” do and we understand it when we read it in a clever parenting book but what does it really look like? How to apply these concepts in real life?

That is why I felt it was so important to give parents real examples and language of how to set empathic limits and hold space for the whole child in the book.

It’s like practicing a new skill, new type of language and attitude. So when we get to read these words to our child this way of relating to them during challenging moments starts to sink in. 

This way of communicating and limit setting still feels very foreign to many of us. Most of us did not grow up feeling heard and understood and because of this we carry so much shame. It’s something we need to realise on a deep level. The fact that most of us carry a big, biiiiig bag full of shame on our back, shame that never was ours to carry in the first place, shame that was placed on us because of lack of knowledge and awareness. Shame projected onto us directly from of the portal of our parents own unhealed wounds.

This work is not about blame. 

Our parents didn’t know better, or even if they knew, they couldn’t do better. They were dealing with their own stuff, pain and trauma passed down to them from previous generations. 

Our parents truly did their best just as we are doing our best.

It is incredibly healing to realize that you can choose a different path for yourself and your children. To see how you can break the cycle and consciously choose to step out of some of those patterns. This is much of what respectful and mindful parenting is about, intentionally stepping into a greater awareness and then choosing differently in your own parenting.

Feeling heard and understood is a deep need for our children. To feel connected, to know that we get it, that we understand. 

It all starts is with holding space for the whole child, to accept them fully. And then to demonstrate our unconditional love by consistently show up with love for their highest of highs as well as their lowest of low.

To consistently get the message from us that we are on their side – also when we are setting boundaries! 

As the book puts it, “We all get upset from time to time. Some days, when you’re in a bad mood, it might feel good to cry. Other days, when you’re so happy you feel like you could burst, it might feel good to laugh. 


The book is currently sold out in English but will soon be available to purchase on the website, under shop - international shipping will be available.


With love,

Kristin Mariella


  • Julia

    Hi Kristin,
    I would love to buy the book. Is there any forecast until when it will be available again?
    Thanks and kind regards

  • Kayla

    Hi! I have had your book saved for awhile and really wanting to purchase it and now am unable to find it. I am praying it’s still available for purchase because this is everything I ever wanted in a book for my child. Where can I find it? I would love to order it as soon as possible!!!! Thank you so much . Looking forward to hearing from you

  • Julita

    Can you advise when your book ‘Sometimes I cry’ will be available again for purchase in English? I would love to buy it and it seems like it’s sold out in your website for quite a while. Many thanks.

  • Lauren

    When/where is the book available in English? Thank you.

  • Nadia Karoui

    Dear kristin,
    I would love to buy your book, but I can’t seem to find it on the website.

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